Essence Qualities could be: enthusiasm, adventurous, efficient, patient, visionary, honest, understanding, spontaneous, humorous, willing, responsible, loving, faithful, loyal, trusting, compassionate, courageous, forgiving, simple, playful, joyful, creative, grateful, transforming, inspirational, open, mothering
Each of us creates our own form of emotional protection in order make our way through life’s challenges. These layers of protection served us well as children, but they may hinder us as adult
The Princess and the Pea as metaphor for Soul
In the normal course of modern life we have all experienced rejection, betrayal, neglect or even trauma. And the body’s build in protection helps to hide parts of our Essence in order to cope. These protective covers kept our authentic selves safe from harm as we took on roles and behaviors that disguised our true identity for safe keeping. With each challenge, we added another layer (mattress) of protection, and may have forgotten our real self.
These “mattresses” include our perceptions and fears, coping methods to keep us from feeling the pain of loss. Most people arrive at adulthood having forgotten that they are not just their bodies, their jobs, their relationships, their possessions. They sense something is missing but can’t quite tell what it is. Like the pea in the bed that keeps you awake at night, you have a vague sense of discomfort and longing to remember something precious.
Signals like anxiety, depression, stress, pain or uncomfortable body sensations can lead us, like the keen instincts of a Sherlock Holmes to discover where we misplaced our authentic selves. Our Essence hasn’t gone anywhere; it’s simply waiting safely to be uncovered.
Ways to Discover Authentic Self
While reawakening your Essence, you will begin to tap into your own inner wisdom and bring ease to your life. Choices become clear when they are made from your Essence rather than the need for safety and protection. Reduce the guesswork about what will make you happy. Notice that when you center yourself in authenticity, you’ll be able to feel whether a certain path will make you happy before you travel it. You'll become more confident as you realize you don't need outward approval for your life. You'll find the courage to make life-transforming decisions.
Stop "Shoulding" On Yourself
You'll find it easier and easier to live the life you were meant to live rather than "shoulding" on yourself. You can release addictions, compulsive or self-defeating behaviors since you live on purpose.
And once you have named and recognize these core qualities, you will begin to recognize them in others and help them to also awaken to their authentic selves.